How do you give a 3-year old child an enema? How do you explain it to them? Will the child cooperate? What kind of equipment should be used?
Giving my children enemas was one of the best things I have ever done for them. Their health improvements from enemas alone have been remarkable. However, it was a very scary thing to do! There was very little practical information covering all the details. Emotional support was non-existent. Most people, had I told them about giving an enema to a 3-year-old, would’ve thought I was crazy! So, let me get this off my chest: I hope your children are healthy and well enough that they will never, ever need an enema. I hope this article is useless to you. However, if you do decide your kids need an enema, I really hope this article will help get you started!
This article is the summary of our experiments and successes giving enemas to two young children, over a 3 year period of time from ages 3-9. These days, the kids look forward to enema time. Initially we did enemas twice a week, now they are more like once every few weeks. Here is an outline of how we got there, for those who like to skip around.
Why Give an Enema – Parasites, Chelation, Detox, Constipation
Why Give an Enema – Parasites, Chelation, Detox, Constipation
I first gave my children enemas because they had parasites. Killing parasites releases bacteria, viruses, and toxins into the body. Washing them out whole before trying to kill them seemed like a good idea. Sure enough, once we started killing parasites with medications, we had major bacterial flare-ups. I am so thankful for the tens of worms that we were able to get out whole first with enemas! Enemas a few days before the full or new moons are especially good at washing out parasites. More details about diagnosing, and purging parasites is in the Parasites in Humans Section.
After I started giving enemas, I noticed that they were also helpful with detoxification. While chelating (pulling out heavy metals), the children’s behavior would often flare up. Enemas during this time immediately improved their moods. Instant relief for everyone!
Enemas are also given for constipation. I’m not a fan of this usage. If a child is constipated, I would rather find the root cause of the problem. Specifically, change the child’s diet and heal their leaky gut.
Mental Preparation – Get Excited!
How do you get a child excited about an enema? Sounds crazy right? We’ve found a few ways to get our children excited:
- Bribery – Yup, good old bribery. We never bribe our kids because we don’t think it’s a great strategy for parenting. This is one exception to our rule. (The other exception is getting blood drawn!) Different bribes work for different kids. For us, movies work. We don’t have TV, video games, or screen time in our home. Movies are a big treat for the children. I managed to make this a double win by showing them Little House on the Prairie. Character building at the same time as enemas! Fun times!!!
- Make it a Contest – Who can excrete the largest worm? The longest worm? Who can hold their enema the longest? For us, the biggest worm contest was the winner. So far, the 3 year old has won that one! For those brave enough for pictures of some of our “winners,” click here, here, here.
- Do it Too – It means a lot when you do something with your children and don’t just make them do it by themselves. You can even go first, so they can see what will happen.
We used all three of these techniques the first time we gave an enema. We had one short cry from the 3-year-old. I calmly said, “We can’t hear the movie when you’re crying. Let me turn the movie off.” This stopped the crying, and it never came back again.
- Enema Bucket & Hose – These come with the smallest, easiest tips I’ve found to insert on a child.
- Glass Jar that is able to hold at least 1 liter
- Bath towels
- Coconut oil for greasing the ends of the hose
- Alcohol for cleaning (91% or as high as possible)
- Heater (optional)
- Latex / Nitrile Gloves (optional)
What to Put in the Enema and How Much
The first enema we did was a Fleet enema from the drug store. For the first enema, I would stick with warm water. There’s no reason to get fancy and complicated.
Our family has tried everything in our enemas over the years– coffee, homeopathic remedies, herbs, medications, vitamins, supplements.
The enemas that seem to be the most beneficial are, in rank order (remember I don’t monetize any links or receive commission from any of these products):
Our family tests what to put in each enema. The video below demonstrates how we test what to put in the enema. This means every enema is different for every person, every time. I’ve published examples of some of our enema flavors. This video demonstrates our method of testing what to put in our enema. If this video is helpful, please ‘Like’ the video. Unfortunately people disappointed that there are no naked kids have given it a lot of dislikes!
However, if one doesn’t know how to test or is afraid to test, then water or slightly salty water is fine. The ‘flavored’ enemas are only slightly better than unflavored. The main benefit is from the volume of water cleaning out parasites & toxins from the lower bowel.
How much water? We try to hold 500mL for about 20 minutes. Yes, even the 3 year old could do this. Not the first time, but eventually.
Giving the Enema
Actually giving the enema is cumbersome the first time, but after that it becomes routine. I highly recommend practicing on yourself first. The glass jar method is preferred because of potential chemicals and toxins leeching into the enema water from non-glass buckets. If it’s the first time, the glass jar might not be worth all the hassle. In this case, prepare the enema in the plastic bucket in step 1 and skip step 5.
- Prepare the enema. Prepare 500mL of warm water in the glass jar. The perfect temperature is when it feels exactly the same temperature as a finger stuck in the water. I mix filtered cold water with filtered boiling water from a water cooker to get the perfect temperature.
- Prepare the hose. Use the hose from the plastic enema bucket kit. If it’s the first time, it should already be greased. If not, grease the end with a bit of coconut oil.
- Lay a towel down on the bathroom floor. Turn on that heater if it is cold in the bathroom.
- Start the enema in the plastic enema bucket. Pour a small amount of the enema from the glass jar to the plastic enema bucket. Let the water flow through the hose and back into the glass jar. Stop the water before it all flows through. Now there should be enema water in the hose, which was the goal of all of this! With only air in the hose, the enema water won’t flow from the glass jar.
- Dump the rest of the water from the plastic bucket either down the sink or back into the glass jar. The enema hose should now be filled with enema water, and the rest of the enema water is in the glass jar.
- Go to the bathroom. Best to get out as much as possible before the enema. Leave tops on, strip to naked on the bottom.
- Lie down on either side, chest to knees. Turn on movie (optional). If still cold, add extra blanket on top of the bare bottom half.
- Administer the Enema. Optionally put on the latex / nitrile gloves.
- Grease the anal opening with coconut oil. This can be especially helpful the first time.
- Insert the greased end of the hose into the anus. This is all about angle. Don’t force it. I’ve found about a 45 degree angle from the spinal side of the anal opening is about right.
- Put the other hose end into the glass jar.
- Lift the glass jar above the level of the child on the floor, while keeping the hose end in the glass jar. Lift the jar higher to increase the flow. Lower it to decrease the flow. This is tricky to do on yourself. I have a small stool that I put the glass jar on while holding the tube in the glass jar.
- Continue laying down for 20 minutes. The enema is easier to hold while laying down.
- Excrete! After 20 minutes, sit on the toilet, excrete, and feel good. After an enema, I typically take about 3 times as long as normal to excrete.
What if the Child Can’t Hold It?
Excrete! After they are done excreting, start over. After excreting once, they can often hold the next enema a lot longer. Sometimes I re-make the enema if most of it is already gone. If most of the enema is still in the glass jar, then I just keep going. After 2 enemas, I turn off the movie and call it a day. Even if the child hasn’t held a 500mL for 20 minutes. Try again in a few days.
Rinse the inside and outside of the hoses with 91% alcohol. How do you get the alcohol into the hose? I found a bottles of alcohol that came with this top, so it directly squirts into the hose:
Another idea is to use a funnel, pipette, or syringe to get the alcohol through the hoses.
The pressure and volume of the 91% alcohol cleans out the inside pretty well. I do have a few small brushes meant for cleaning out glass straws. I rarely find them necessary – only if something gets stuck in one of the enema tubes. I use my fingers to rub alcohol on the outside of the hoses.
After the alcohol washing, I rinse everything with water and hang up to dry. I make sure the hoses are really dried out before using them again. This means at least 3 days of drying in our dry California climate. We have 2 hoses for each person in our family, so the hoses usually end up drying out for about 1 week before the next use.
The hoses and plastic starter bucket I replace about twice a year. This is about when I feel like they aren’t cleaning up very well anymore.
A video summarizing this article is below. I demonstrate the equipment and how to fill the hose initially with enema water. No naked people!
Other Enema Systems
What about other enema systems? Why does the equipment and method described in this article work the best? Kerri Rivera has great summaries of various enema systems on p. 106-107 of her book Healing the Symptoms Known as Autism.
We’ve tried several of these enema systems. Here’s a quick table summarizing the reasons why I found these other enema systems not as good. They are listed in rank order from second best to worst.
|Enema System (in order from best to worst)||Why Not?|
|Plastic Bucket & Hose Only|
|Stainless Steel Enema Bucket & Hose|
|Fleet Enema from the Drug Store|
|Syringe & Catheter|
General Enema Support can be found on the: Bottoms Up Facebook Group
Q: Is there a downside if multiple members of my family share the same enema system?
A: How you want to share among family members is really up to your comfort level. Here’s what we do. Each family member has their own hose for each enema. We clean and dry the hoses, bucket and jar after each use, as described in the Clean Up section. Next time, someone might get a hose that another family member used last time. The hoses and plastic starter bucket we replace completely about twice a year. We have been doing it this way for about 3 years and haven’t had any problems.
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